“Men seek a loving relationship and in search of the one woman that will rock his world and drive him crazy.”
I’ve been saying this for years. Don’t believe this theory about men being this commitment phobia creature that’s after one thing. Only women with limited success with men believe or write about this subject. Yes, I said it!!!! It doesn’t matter what she does for a living or her credentials, if she talks about men being afraid of commitment and only seeks one thing or encouraging you to play hard to get, it usually because she has never had much success with men herself.
Yes, there is a male culture that may not encourage men to settle down until he is older but let him meet that one special woman; he will lose it and be all over the place trying to figure out what should be his next move. Women who understand this dynamic are the ones having success. (Marriage). Men do NOT have any anxiety about commitment if they feel that they made this choice themselves. But women make the mistake of trying to control this process and force this issue.
Ladies, please understand this: a man have this outline of how his life is supposed to go: i.e. get an education, make money, enjoy life, settle down, buy a house and have kids…Whenever something goes against his plan, he will panic. Women who truly understand this totally get men this fully. So how does this type of woman handle this situation? They are experts in changing associations.
They know how to create associations that being with her is a plus and can be a great addition to his blueprint right now at a point when he wasn’t expecting. She makes him feel totally comfortable about his sexuality and everything in his life. This is how a young man who believed he wasn’t ready all of sudden wants to marry this amazing woman it fears he can NOT replace.
If you DO NOT know how to do this, this should be your focus to learn. But here is something that you must understand:
The very moment a man feels as if he is being controlled, he will hold his single life tighter. Men are afraid of walking into a situation where they feel force to commit. His biggest fear is being trapped into a relationship he never planned for or being with a woman that is sexually inhibited and keeps him frustrated. How do men combat this fear? They change their behavior towards a woman when he is actually afraid and don’t know what to do next. Knowing how to navigate this process is imperative for a woman. However women that know how to influence usually get this man and it would be his decision.
However, women on the other hand are afraid of being played because they fear being cheating on or their man falling for another woman. This is why she truly watches out for the player type of man that goes for the next great body or pretty face. How do women try to combat her fear? They try to rush things and gain certainty by forcing a relationship before anything else can happen. It just doesn’t work and has NEVER WORKED long-term.
Message: Stop trying to make it serious before it becomes serious. Throwing sex at him is NOT the answer either, even though he may love this part, it more than just sex to him. Men usually think either consciously or unconsciously, “Is she replaceable?” If he believes you are, you are NOT the one. His actions will tell you this. Therefore, learn how to change a man’s associations of being with YOU. This is an acquired skill. If you are NOT having success with men, you have NOT learned this skill yet.
