As August winds down, the transition from summer’s relaxed freedom to the structure of school can feel overwhelming for both children and parents. While new backpacks and school supplies are important, getting your child mentally and emotionally ready is just as vital for a successful start.
- Reestablish Routines
Summer often brings late bedtimes and unstructured days. About two weeks before school starts, begin shifting your child’s schedule to match the school routine. Adjust bedtimes and wake-up times gradually to help your child’s body clock reset and reduce the first-week shock.
Introducing a consistent morning routine—breakfast, dressing, packing a bag—can give children a sense of security. Consider making a fun visual schedule with your child to help them know what to expect each day.
- Talk About Feelings
Open communication is key. Ask your child what they’re excited about and what might be worrying them. Listen patiently; reassure them that feeling a mix of nerves and excitement is perfectly normal. Regular check-ins allow parents to spot anxieties early and boost confidence with positive reinforcement.
- Visit and Rehearse
If your child is entering a new school or classroom, visit together before the first day. Walk through the building, introduce yourselves to teachers if possible, and point out important spots like the cafeteria and restrooms. If a visit isn’t possible, talk through the first day: what to expect from waking up to returning home. This visualization helps make the unknown more manageable.
- Encourage Choice and Control
Transitions feel easier when kids have a sense of control. Let your child pick out their first-day outfit, choose a lunchbox snack, or pick music for the car ride. These little decisions empower kids and help them feel more in control amid change.
- Keep After-School Downtime Sacred
The first weeks back can be emotionally draining. Instead of jumping straight into extracurriculars or homework, allow downtime after school—quiet snacks, unstructured play, or a short walk. This helps children decompress and process their day before tackling more demands.
- Reinforce Social Connections
Over the summer, some friendships may become distant. Arrange playdates with classmates or encourage your child to reconnect before school begins. Feeling socially supported can ease jitters and foster excitement about returning.
- Normalize Big Feelings
Expect that your child (and perhaps you) may have emotional ups and downs the first few weeks. Meltdowns, clinginess, or mood swings are common signs of adjustment. Rather than worrying, remind your child—and yourself—that these feelings are normal and will fade as routine returns.
- Model a Positive Attitude
Children watch and reflect their parents’ attitudes. Speak positively about the new school year, show excitement for upcoming opportunities, and model healthy coping when things are uncertain.
Supporting your child mentally and emotionally through the back-to-school transition sets the stage for growth, learning, and resilience. With empathy, patience, and preparation, you can help your child enter the classroom confident and ready to thrive.
